I loved this very practical article I discovered via Facebook recently.
I thought the first point, about ascribing intent, was a very insightful one. How many times do we make ourselves miserable by assuming the worst of intentions on the parts of our loved ones, co-workers, and even strangers? Personally speaking, I do this on a regular basis.
In fact, my husband and I have noted many times that our worst disagreements happen when we fail to assume the best about each other. We are grown up enough to recognize it and talk about it, but not quite able to avoid it altogether yet. Forward progress! Small steps!
One of those small steps could be a mental exercise a friend recently told me she uses, where she comes up with even wild, elaborate scenarios in order to ascribe the very best intentions on everyone’s part, especially during a conflict. This positive practice kind of reminds me of Pollyanna’s Glad Game …
What? You are not familiar with Pollyanna’s Glad Game? You must educate yourself at once!
And then let me know your thoughts. Perhaps not about the Glad Game, but about the ways in which our mental habits can make us unnecessarily unhappy. What kind of mental intervention are you in need of today, and how can we help you?