The Importance of Just Being

I am writing this from the airport. After a week full of travels that took me across all the way the country to Oregon, to the Catholic Digest offices in Connecticut, and the offices of Catechist and Today’s Catholic Teacher in Ohio, I am truly ready to be home.

I do not always travel this much, but when I do, the whole family feels it. While I have a capable husband, older kids, and multiple drivers in the household to keep things running smoothly, there is something irreplaceable about a mother’s presence in the home.

My 8-year-old Danny knows this. When I was home briefly between trips last week, he followed me, room to room, around the house. When I sat to type, he held one of my hands. When I packed my suitcase, he scrambled onto my bed, tucked himself under the covers, and said, “I don’t need anything! I just wanna be here.”

And so he was there. And I was there. We were there, together.

I think sometimes we moms get a little too caught up in all the things we must do and all the places we must go with our children. There are carpools and sports and church events and grocery shopping. With all the doing and going, however, we risk missing the importance of being.

More than ride to the next activity, your children need your presence in the home. You don’t need to do anything to be important. You just need to be there. Your presence is an irreplaceable gift only you can give to your family. Be sure to give it to them today.

About Danielle Bean

Danielle Bean

Danielle Bean, mother of eight, is editor-in-chief of Catholic Digest and Faith & Family. She is also author of My Cup of Tea: Musings of a Catholic Mom, Mom to Mom, Day to Day: Advice and Support for Catholic Living and (with Elizabeth Foss) Small Steps for Catholic Moms: Think. Pray. Act. Every Day

  • Kristy

    Just what I needed to hear today:)
    It’s easy to get so caught up in trying to accomplish all the tasks of running a home and educating my children that I miss out on the simple opportunities to “just be together.” Thanks, Danielle!