Are you beautiful?

How would you answer this question if a stranger asked you on the street?

Check out women’s reactions to being asked “Are you beautiful?” in this clip from the Momnipotent study.

Are you beautiful? How would you answer this question about yourself or about other women in your life? What makes a woman beautiful, anyway? I’d love to hear thoughts in the comments.

About Danielle Bean

Danielle Bean

Danielle Bean, mother of eight, is editor-in-chief of Catholic Digest and Faith & Family. She is also author of My Cup of Tea: Musings of a Catholic Mom, Mom to Mom, Day to Day: Advice and Support for Catholic Living and (with Elizabeth Foss) Small Steps for Catholic Moms: Think. Pray. Act. Every Day

  • Julia E

    Wow, this hits home for me. I have been struggling with this my whole life. In all honesty, I would say “no”. I don’t think I truly understand what makes a woman (person) beautiful. I would say that I am passable; not slovenly, but not beaultiful. The one time I truly felt/thought I was beautiful was my wedding day, and never beautiful like that again since. That came after months of hard personal training, substantial acne control, make-up, jewlery and confession. That just takes too much effort and time to happen regularly, especially with a small child. I think my mother, sisters, and daughter are beautiful. They are physically very attractive, with happy even tempers and gentle, giving hearts.

    • Susan Summerfield-Perez

      If you have a beautiful Mother and Sisters and daughter… then , you are very beautiful. Sounds to me, like some blunders with anger and frustration are making you feel ugly. I have that issue also. But , deep inside, I do not want to respond in anger or frustration, I feel awful when I do this. However, I know I am a loving, beautiful woman despite my faults and so are you Julia!

  • Heather Tremblay

    I thought it was really striking how many women struggled to answer the question! Here’s my answer: Yes I’m beautiful but I don’t always “feel” beautiful.

  • Kathy

    My daughter and I just watched this together. We both loved it when someone said something like “yes.” But our absolute favorite moment was when the white-haired woman said, “and MY MAMA sure didn’t make no ugly children!” I wanted to high-five her through the computer screen.

  • Monique Dawson

    The only time I know that I am beautiful is when my child just wants to sit and snuggle with me. I may not feel beautiful to myself or I may not think that others see me as beautiful but at that moment, through my child’s eyes, I am beautiful. Those moments are so precious to me.

  • Heather

    I feel weird, guilty and vain to admit that I do think I’m beautiful. I feel like I am more beautiful now in my thirties than I have ever been. It could be argued that I am simply more confident than I was then so I only ‘seem’ more beautiful. But if I were asked on the street, and I wasn’t concerned about being perceived as vain, I would say yes, I am. It’s weird that I’ve never actually thought about this in a concrete way but yes, I am beautiful.

  • Sister Mary Eucharista, SMMC

    Some of those women of color on Danielle’s interview had it right. They are confident and self possessed. They know they are intrinsically lovable just in the way they held themselves when asked this important question. In the movie, “The Help,” the kind maid/nurse, Aibileen Clark, played by Viola Davis, told her charges, “You is kind! You is smart! You is important!” I believe all the women interviewed, and perhaps anyone who is tempted to believe she is not beautiful, could add to that list, “You are beautiful!” Just so they know and remember :)

  • Susan Summerfield-Perez

    This just nearly brought me to tears. I was saying… yes! yes! yes! , you are beautiful. look at you , you are a woman, a Mother, Daughter, Sister, Aunt, Grandma etc. – How could they not be beautiful? I asked my very beautiful 11 yr. old if she was beautiful. She said no. I said, what if someone asked me or your sister that question, what should we say? She said , yes , of course. I said, well then, why aren’t you beautiful too? She smiled. Anyway, apparently something that we need to be talking about. Is God beautiful? Made in his image… remember!